Have you ever thought about the everyday barrage of images and messages that make you feel like you're not enough?
They're everywhere. And they can really mess with your self esteem.
The following is an excerpt from my new book, "Stop Losing Sleep Over the Size of Your Butt" that I hope will help you think about these influences in your life and how they're shaping your opinion about your body.
My hope is that once you recognise these influences you can take steps to removing the negative ones, and embracing the positive ones.
Here's the excerpt...
I grew up with women everywhere in my life. There were six sisters, my mom, my grandmother, tons of aunts. Just women everywhere. What I didn’t realize at the time but realize now is that none one of these women - who I love dearly - actually liked their bodies. As a young girl this had a very profound effect on me.
You see, every time one of these women complained about how they hated their thighs, or they had to lose weight, or compared themselves negatively to someone else, it reinforced a notion that in order to be beautiful I had to be thin. Or, in order to love and appreciate my body, I had to look a certain way.
Without knowing it, the actions of the women in my life were causing me to obsess about my size and to find fault with my body. It’s no wonder that growing up I hated the way I looked. I was merely copying the example of everyone I knew and admired.
What about you? How many women do you know who really love their body?
My guess is not many. Sadly, this is the case for most women.
Now, here’s an even scarier question. How many of you, through your actions and words are negatively impacting the women and girls you interact with?
Perhaps your daughters, your nieces, your friends? Is your example teaching them that the only way they can be happy about their body is if they’re thin?
Even if you’re doing a good job for those around you, your example is only a fraction of what your loved ones are exposed to. They are bombarded with hundreds and thousands of images every single day on television, in magazines, and on social media that associate beauty, wealth, fame, popularity, and even intelligence, with how you look. It’s almost impossible to find anyone or anything that isn’t reinforcing the idea that to succeed in life you have to be thin.
I share these few paragraphs with you as I want you to think about two things...
1. What influences in your life are causing you to dislike your body?
2. What way are you potentially influencing the women in your life... both positively and negatively?
Think about these questions and what you can do to remove the negative body-image influences in your life, all while embracing the positive ones.
As you do this, you'll start to embrace the truth that it doesn't matter what other people think or say about you and your body. What matters is what you think and how you're going to love yourself.
I look forward to sharing more with you soon.
P.S. If you'd like to get a copy of my book you can do it here...